Limit Expectations, Be More Understanding in Long Distance Relationships and Engagements

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this post should take four to seven minutes to read from start to finish.

This post is aimed for current long distance couples to read. If you aren't currently in a long distance relationship or long distance engagement, that's fine. You can continue reading and find something new while you read throughout this post.

Limit Expectations

What is your definition and understanding of "limit expectations"?

I am sure that each long distance couple have spoken about some expectations for what they would have for each other to meet. During the earliest stages of dating with my husband while we were in long distance relationship, we had a conversation about what some expectations that we had for each other to meet.

What are some expectations that long distance couples can have and why do they have them?

~ Having conversations often, even if it's two to four days a week - it helps with bonding each other.
~ Celebrating each other's achievements, it helps with being proud of what have been accomplished.
~ Supporting each other's decisions, some decisions can be tough and need to be able support them.
~ Trusting one another, it helps build a stronger foundation when trust falls into place.

~ Constantly missing each other, it often helps understanding for each other that they are being missed. ~ Constantly loving each other, it often helps understanding for each other that they are being loved. ~ Remaining strong for each other, there are moments when long distance becomes difficult.

Before my husband and I met each other in person and during the earliest stage of boyfriend and girlfriend phrase; we were concerned if we flew to each other and finding out that we didn't like each other in person, we didn't know what we would do. If our relationship didn't last long, we would feel very upset. We knew that the cost of plane tickets, and other expenses that was involved has been wasted. The effort and time that we had for organizing plans would have been wasted. We were afraid that we might get emotionally hurt.

My husband and I were able to fast and pray at separate times within a week ish to make sure that we were making the right decision for dating each other. When we got the same impression with the answer that we received, we were feeling so happy because our mutual concerns went away and we were looking forward to meeting each other in person. It certainly took over a week after we started dating for my husband to tell me that he loved me for the first time.

I remembered about two years ago and about a few weeks prior to my fifth month into the long distance relationship with my husband, I shared a photo of me and my husband together on Facebook. The caption stated,

"In long distance relationship; you will learn to communicate with your partner often, you will learn how to build trust with your partner, you will learn how to build courage to stay strong while your partner is far away from you, you will learn how to be supportive for your partner's decisions, you will learn how committed you are towards your partner, you will learn how to not fully rely your happiness from your partner, and so much more."

"Love will travel as far as you let it. It has no
limits." - Dee King.

Be More Understanding

How can you "be more understanding" towards your loved one during long distance?

How can you "be more understanding" towards your relatives and extended relatives?

How can you "be more understanding" towards your friends?

I understood now of the some ways that can be misunderstood during long distance relationship and long distance engagement. Some long distance couples may find it difficult of ways to be more understanding to each other. 

What are some ways that long distance couples may experience to be more understanding and why?

~ Being a great listener to each other - it's often a great idea to engage conversations with some questions and answers, also sharing related experiences to each other is also a great idea. 

~ Have some understanding of culture backgrounds and transitions, most common long distance couples would find themselves dating someone either out of their state in their same country or out of their country, - it's often fun way of getting to know someone else's culture background and learning about the transitions that they do.

~ Each individual may experience different routines/schedules that changes day to day bases, - with depending on employment has different rosters for starting and ending shifts during the payment period. 

~ Have the understanding of the time zone differences - understanding of time zone differences makes it a lot easier with finding the right time for the couple to be able to communicate with each other. 

While my husband and I was in long distance relationship and engagement; we both learned more about each other's culture backgrounds' differences, we shared some words that we said differently for certain items that means the same thing, we were often a great listener to each other - we always asked each other questions and answers, I always admired my husband for sharing his mission experiences that he had and he always admired my experiences that I had while serving in Brisbane Temple, and so forth. 

We both knew that our routines/schedules were constantly filled up quickly. My husband was working from Mondays to Fridays and that took up most of his days with work. Due to the time zone differences, I would be mostly sleeping while he was working. Before he starts work each work day, I would be either be working, or spending some time with my family or doing other things. 

Stay Tuned until next time.