Someday

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What is your definition and understanding of the word, "Someday"? What does it mean to an immediate relative? 

Throughout every SINGLE month since I have gotten married; I have been constantly getting asked questions that focuses on pregnancy related by many people including several friends whom I haven't spoken to for ages. I strongly feel it is NOT appropriate for anyone (I really do mean anyone despite their age) to ask me if I was pregnant despite how long I have been married for. 

The persistence of the same people who kept asking me those questions certainly does get me thinking about frustration, and upset with no intention to do so because I haven't been able to conceive of any children within the first year of my marriage. I strongly know that I would fall pregnant someday in Heavenly Father's timing NOT my own timing. I know that we CAN'T rush the Lord's timing no matter how hard we may try to do so without acknowledging it. 

There are many reasons why many women can do their best to avoid of answering pregnancy topic related questions that has been asked by their friends, and their relatives including their work colleagues, and so forth because I know that pregnancy topic related questions CAN be very sensitive to many women. We shouldn't have to feel obligated to make any assumptions or expectations how some women can fall pregnant so quickly because it might have taken you a few tries or several tries to fall pregnant so quickly. 

I know that we can choose not to consider and to take some time out to think about some of the possibilities why some women aren't pregnant within the first year of marriage, why some women aren't pregnant after two years mark of being in a relationship, and so forth. I strongly think that we should take some time to think about those possibilities instead of asking if they have spoken to their spouse or their fiancè or their boyfriend about having children, if they were pregnant, when they are having children, and so forth. 

Someday

The possibilities can be;

The terrifying fears that they might've to face according to reading about from other women's worse pregnancy experiences, they may would like to accomplish many things before having children (such as buy a house or build a bigger home to live in, to finish studying their current degree, saving enough funds to contribute towards raising children, and so forth), they may have had experienced some past complications and difficulties during their past pregnancies (such as they've experienced past miscarriages at any stage during pregnancies), and so forth. 

I know that my husband and I would really appreciate if people not asking us pregnancy topic related questions. 

My husband and I are strongly encouraging our FRIENDS and IMMEDIATE RELATIVES including EXTENDED RELATIVES despite how old they are is to STOP asking us the following questions; 

"Are you and your husband expecting?" "Have you and your husband spoken about having children yet?" 

"How many children are you and your husband are planning to have?" "When are you and your husband is going to start to have children?" What are you and your husband going to name the children?" "What is stopping you and your husband for having children?" and so forth. There are so many other questions that we have been getting asked and just before, I have shared the most common questions that we have been getting asked over and over again. 

My husband and I are currently NOT expecting but I do know that someday we would be expecting (we would even announce it to our friends and relatives when we feel comfortable and ready to share it before sharing the announcement on social media), we already have spoken to each other about having children, we trusting in Heavenly Father's timing and NOT our timing when we;re going to start and having children, and again, we feel that there are several things that we would like to accomplish before having children (such as we move and live into a bigger home, we would like me to have my driver's license - so I wouldn't have to rely on my husband or other people to take me to places for transportation, and so forth) and so forth. 

I know that I don't judge anyone, and I wouldn't say to anyone including my friends who gotten married and was able to be expecting within the first year of marriage was RUSHED and LUCKY, I always congratulate them and do my best to remember to wish them the best. I have acknowledged on my Facebook newsfeed of church member friends who fell away from the church and fall pregnant, I still congratulate them. I don't get upset at Heavenly Father and ask him "Why they are able to have children but not me?" I always do my best to stay positive, and hoping that it would be my turn when my husband and I are confident to be ready when we have children. 

Please DON'T rush us into getting pregnant, it's not fair on us, DON'T give us any bad suggestions of parenting (we know what we would be best for us to be parent), DON'T give us any negative suggestions of how to raise our children (we would know what would be best for how to raise our children), DON'T tell us to wait until we're in our thirties when to have our first child (we aren't in our teenage years, and we aren't in our early twenties), and so forth.

Stay Tuned until next time.