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this post should take three to five minutes to read from start to finish.
This post focuses on April 1971 General Conference talk and it is called, "Marriage Is Intended to Be Forever" by
James A. Cullimore. This post is part one. I would like to share with you some highlights while I was reading the talk and I hope that you would be able to learn something new.
Brother Cullimore has mentioned the following; "Other important desires and plans in marriage should be well understood by both parties as well. ... Possibly to list some of the most common causes for which civil divorces
are sought might be helpful in avoiding these problems: incompatibility, adultery, money matters, physical abuse, dishonesty, not living the gospel, infidelity, not honoring priesthood, desertion, constant bickering, apathy, drunkenness, uncontrolled temper.
Incompatibility has come to be such a common word, it seems to be the justification for many problems. ... Have we made every effort to compromise our likes and dislikes with those of our spouse? If we were truly living the gospel, there would be much less incompatibility. ... The matter of disinterest, lack of voluntary expression, lack of affection are common causes for breakdown of marriage.
President Harold B. Lee recently said this ... “... the most dangerous thing that can happen between you and your wife or between me and my wife is apathy, … for them to feel that we are not interested in their affairs, that we are not expressing our love and showing our affection in countless ways. Women to be happy have to be loved and so do men.” (Seminar for Regional Representatives of the Twelve, December 12, 1970)
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| "If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently." - F. Burton Howard. |
To take lightly the law of chastity or to violate the moral teachings of the Savior is a sober matter. It seems incredible that priesthood holders and women who have been considered worthy to hold a recommend to the temple and be married therein are so often guilty of adultery, infidelity, and other
... In this day when so many women are working out of the home, as men and women work together, many homes are broken up by what at first starts to be an innocent association.
... No matter what the reason for divorce, those usually hurt most are the children. Too often the children are robbed of the basic needs to prepare them for life. President McKay said there are three fundamental things to which every child is entitled: (1) a respected name, (2) a sense of security, (3) opportunities for development. (The LDS Family, p. 406.) The possibility of any of these is lessened in divorce. ... Important to any marriage is complete confidence trust in all things.
The confidence born of true love, never doubting, never questioning the integrity of each other. ... To counsel with each other and make decisions together is so important to a happy marriage. Counsel which includes the whole family might build good family relationships. Counseling with each other in all that is done will strengthen the bonds of marriage. I suppose there is no surer need in marriage than constant compromise. It is through compromise that we grow closer to each other.
As we acknowledge our own faults and recognize the virtues in the other and make the adjustments, we strengthen our marriage. ... Neither should courtship end at the altar. How important it is to constantly be conscious of our marriage and work at it every day we live, keeping alive our courtship by kind acts, thoughtfulness, and consideration always.
Archibald F. Bennett, in his writings on family exaltation, expresses this beautifully: “Too many couples have come to the altar of marriage looking upon the marriage ceremony as the end of courtship instead of the beginning of an eternal courtship. Let us not forget that during the burdens of home life … that tender words of appreciation, courteous acts are even more appreciated than during those sweet days and months of courtship.
It is after the ceremony and during the trials that daily arise in the home, that a word of ‘thank you,’ or ‘pardon me,’ ‘if you please,’ … will contribute to that love which brought you to the altar. … The wedding ring gives no man the right to be cruel or inconsiderate, and no woman the right to be slovenly, cross or disagreeable.” (The LDS Family) May we keep sacred our marriage vows and live so that we might enjoy its eternal blessings ..."
If you would like to read this whole talk either now or in your own time, here's the link below.
Stay Tuned until next time.
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